The dawn of Facebook was one of the worst vehicles to ingratiate itself upon our lives. IT (information technology) efficiently took everyone’s lives and smashed all of us all together into a virtual universal high school, if not lesser. Our lives have been turned into”a social experiment” that seeks to promote a continuous reinforcement of validation, overstated advertising of our faulty ideas and irrational thoughts, and perpetually masturbates some kind of tacit confirmation that we”matter.”
Nowadays, a”buddy” is best described as a gathering of names or a gaggle of faces or other self-identifying pictures that corresponds to a human being. Facebook’s system of acquiring and incorporating”friends,” was the single most amazing achievement of entrepreneurial and mental proportions; encourage people to virally market themselves, cross-connect with”like-minded folks” that politically charge up the armies with”group think mentality,” join with people they know and call them,”friends,” and then, use that information to advertise a truckload of useless crap and unnecessary commodities to those people through the social medium. Brilliant.
In addition to supporting”group think” and underscoring an idea that anyone with a Facebook page and Twitter handle is now some type of political pro, we further instruct people a volume of people known as,”friends,” is some sort of currency. The acquisition of”friends” is now seen by some as an instrument of said”social money,” used to indicate some type of personal value. (Rather strange to imply that you’re”important” by the number of”friends” that”like” you? Don’t you think?) Facebook has misappropriated the use, weight, and meaning of the word”friend,” and your profile allows other people to associate your quantity of friends as a position of personal excellence, influence, and inferred”significance” Yuk! Gross! Disgusting!
It would seem that some Facebook users incorporate anyone and everyone to their”friends list” to be able to communicate to other people,”Wow! Look at the number of people’like’ me. Look at all my’fans.'” It is bad enough that the human race marvels in its own existence and accomplishments, never mind the fact that we refer to ourselves as”intelligent life” When compared to what – A worm? Social media has become an ever-evolving force in a world that reinforces a dangerous ideology of self-importance. The current use of the word”friend” is now a far-reaching concept that divorces itself from the familiarity and importance of someone whom you trust, admire, and invest time in exchange for a meaning that suggests personal value.
It’s the simplest and most obvious way to celebrate yourself and shore up an already shaky self-confidence. For people of the type, social media is the easiest pathway to celebrate one’s own personal existence, and of course, a very”captive” audience to discuss everything from this morning’s breakfast picture, a veiny biceps, and every movement in NYC last week. If you are really lucky, the narcissist will push pictures of his or her adorable kids and their associated microscopic movements on mind and drown you in a disgusting world of personal opinion pieces.
Without spending eight pages on the topic, I think I can summarize my point very succinctly: the quantity of people on your Facebook page doesn’t identify how many”true” friends you have. This point is most obviously demonstrated in this way: how many of those”friends” are going to come running to assist you in case you call at 2am, no questions asked? I’m only guessing, but I would say, few.
True friends are your”rock.” They are the mortar and foundation of your life’s surroundings, the people who think of you once you’re up, down and all things in between, and the people whom you never want qualify yourself, justify your actions, explain your behaviour or validate your presence.
They know who and what you are, understand how and why you’re, and love you for worse, better, richer, poorer and always stand with you, whether the battle is not!
To pursue a happier quality of life, you should:
• Downsize! Choose the people whom you call”friends” and categorize the people you acquaint. Some feel the need to stockpile people they call”friends.” Leave high school behaviors to people less than 18 years of age. Life isn’t a popularity contest.
• Qualify! Who is the type of person you would like to call your”friend?” Is this person someone who carries him/herself with value for others? Is encouraged by the type acts s/he performs for others? Is considerate of others’ feelings before talking or taking action? If someone has less than spectacular conduct, you might want to evaluate if you desire to be considered guilty by association.
They are the sorts of people that are the most dependable and are the”Special Forces Unit” of your friends-battalion.